Obituaries: Dolores Aguilar

if she did truely raise her grandchildren , her kids need to STFU and stop acting likeparents of the year because i know a lady who is raising her great grandkids because her kids and grandkids are all flakes!

If you don't have something nice to say you should not say anything. This is a hard concept in a world that wants to stick it to the "bad". Find a friend and get on with replacing kindness where there was none in the past.

Have a nicer than average day!

People generally have short memories and only remember recent things about a person.

If I had to guess, Dolores became real crotchety in her old age and this is all everyone remembers about her. I'm also guessing she had to be a real pain in butt for her family to write an obit like this - especially their mother.

Who knows, maybe she really WAS a pain her whole life.

I feel the same way about my own mother. It's not my fault she's that way, her many other children and I have tried to get her help for years but she's very resistant to help and is incredibly selfish and hateful and impatient and abusive.

There's no way to explain it except that this is life, period. People who deplore this obituary don't know what it is like to harbor that kind of resentment after years of abuse. Don't evaluate other people's relationships with their family on the basis of your own subjective experience. Respect other people, even when they don't share your beliefs.

Marcy Marcy Marcy.....sometimes it isn't about drug imbalances, or the poor treatment one got throughout life. Sometimes people are just mean spirited and incapable of caring for to anyone but themselves. And what those people get, whether written in an obituary, or not, is a send off saying "good riddance".

Dolores who?

Well apparently she had been nice to someone at some point............she had ALL those kids !!!!!!!!!

LegendXXX.
I LOVED your comment. Here in the DEEP south ( southern Arkansas ) where I live, we would have a common response to it...................AMEN !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I was aghast that a child would write this about their mother. To wash their dirty linen in a public forum like an obit column showed me that this child was truly her mothers daughter. Nine children equals 81 months of carrying a child to birth... and then there is the year or so of the dirty diapers (per child), not to forget those snotty noses she wiped. She didn't drown them in a bathtub, or put them in a cage and starve them to death???

I could understand this if it was coming from the "NOW" generation who wants instant gratification, but these children are from my generation... I am shamed by their conduct!

I wonder if this selfish daughter ever thanked her mother for giving birth to her? Seems to me she kept track of the unpleseant things and conveniently forgot the good. It is up to each of us to make our own happiness, not to depend upon another person for it.

May Dolores Aguilar now rest in PEACE and with the Love of our Lord. No one has the right to judge this woman but him!

9 kids and 40 grandchildren?? C'mon people. That IS a contribution and a BIG one at that!
And with all those kids how could she have had time for a hobby?
Nope....wake up people. I'm with Thunderbottom and the very few others who posted similarly here on this one.
These people who wrote that obit about the mother who gave them life are clearly selfish and self centered and have no idea what life is even about.
It's only by the grace of God that any of them were not given what their mother was given to see how they would handle it.
This is what is wrong with this world. People are always looking to blame others rather than taking responsibility for themselves.
What Dolores' kids have done is what is unforgivable....and I hope God has mercy on them.

I will also add the word UNGRATEFUL to that!!

Ungrateful and unforgiving, exactly. As long as you're giving, you're okay. As soon as you express an opinion, or stop being there, you're not okay. I don't take anything very seriously. Just looking for peace. Although, I do have hobbies~so, maybe I'll be okay. I don't care how lousy a mother Dolores was, she was still your mother and a public airing was just inappropriate. God forgive you.

For those who think it's a hoax: Check Snopes.

It's so sad that you had such a horrible mom to leave this impression on you. I hope you find peace. However I also say, Good for you for being open and honest... I think you have every right to say whatever you want. Especially when you pay for it!! Obituaries are not cheap!

WOW! I thought that my brother and I were the only ones who felt this way about the female who gave us birth. We were SO relieved to see her go. We prepaid a burial at sea and got a note in the mail when it was done. We apologize to the fish.

WOW!!!!!! What happened to her remains, I wonder!

My GOD, I pray that this is not real! GOD already knew what was in her heart, so was it necessary to say this about her, whether it was true or not?

After reading all of the previously 55 comments, I still say that if there was a Dolores, GOD knew what Dolores had in her heart.

That is so sad.  That Dolores has spent so much time alienating herself from her family that this Obit is the result.  I would hope and pray that when my family writes my obit that they would have much kinder words to say about me.

Good luck Aguilar family, and a happier time of healing to you.